We are afloat in a virtual ocean of relationships every day. We have to be able to swim to truly live in this world.
Some float by in their life jackets. Others use boats to ride by without getting wet. Both miss experiencing the ocean - the danger, the excitement and the joy of real relationships.
Good relationships are key to a successful society. Here I not only refer to good business relationships or stable political relationships, but in fact the intimate relationships that have been disappearing steadily - relationships between man and wife, brothers and sisters, and friends. Our value systems have become corrupted by the subjective post-modern era we live in – we are now all rebels without a cause!
We don't want to waste time swimming through relationships that might keep us from realizing our own potential. We would rather start the engine on our power boat and cut across the surface, i.e., use people to get where we want to go. This has become the pragmatic approach to relationships.
On the other hand there are those who realize that even such things as the economy are based upon relationships. In spite of people setting their own goals and using other people only when they need them to fulfil these goals, there are those who recognize the need for authentic people to know one another and work together. No longer can we afford to simply interact as if self-interest is the only driving factor, but we must see that the lack of intimate relationships is partially responsible for the current economic crisis.
Perhaps it is difficult for you to make this connection, but think about it... It was people who made the transactions that fuelled the sub-prime mortgage crisis. Money in itself is simply a symbol of agreement. When I walk into a shop and offer to buy an item, both the shop owner and I have to agree that my money holds a certain value. If we cannot agree on this, there will be no transaction.
The same applies to buying a house. The question is what went wrong in the relationship that allowed so many people to get into so much debt. Perhaps, if the transaction had been based on relationship, one of the people would have said, “No.”
If we are truly concerned about the effect of our actions on a global scale, never mind on our next-door neighbors, we should consider how we relate to the other swimmers in this ocean and how our actions will affect their reality – what the relationship is between our actions and them.
It is time we get out of our boats and get wet so we can face how relational interaction affects who we are and how we should live together. Perhaps we would discover that relationships can become a very real, but different, form of transportation that could carry us through the stormy seas ahead.
Principle Based Evaluation: Meaningful relationships require investment. Relationships are not a means to an end but an end in themselves. Furthermore, policy makers should recognize that the economy serves relationships, not the other way around.
For more information on the author, Jan-Derick Nel, go to: http://www.thekonstrukt.blogspot.com
jordyn cline
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... Reading this article made me think about how often I hear things like, "It's all about who you know." Or something along the lines of, "It pays to know people in high places." Although these frequently used sayings do deal with relationships, they are most often used on a surface-level context. We can see much of this in society today by looking at the current economic crisis. People in the business world can tend to use relationships to get to an end goal. Which is a large part of why our country is in the state it is today. People using other people to attain what they want without caring what affect their actions have on others. This is where I think that they couldn't be more wrong. Just like it was stated above, relationships are not a means to an end. Even if people interact with others and spend time with them to get what they want, that is not building a real relationship. A solid relationship requires more than just a transaction of money between people or parties to achieve a goal, It requires an investment on a much deeper scale. It requires time spent, with the idea of building a bridge of trust with others or in other words, having a relational interaction. I do agree that relationships built in that context will be extremely valuable in coming out of this economic crisis. |
Ramah Walker
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Step off the Boat I am in total agreement with that relationships are a key factor to our whole lives. No matter what we are doing it is always nice to have someone by our side, whether it is business related or not. This somewhat goes with your water analogy of the water being relationships. Sometimes we need to be like Peter and just get out of the boat and take the risk. Peter took the risk that none can compare to. He trusted Christ and knew he could do what his Master did. To work with the previous analogy it would be good if he was drenched, but here he is taking the risk of getting out of the boat. In order to succeed we have to take the risk and make those relationships with those that we aren’t comfortable with. Sometimes these things turn into permanent relationships that last a long time, even more than just business. Many people have succeeded through relationships. This also reminds me of how Chris Gardner became successful. He made long lasting relationships out of work that helped him get the job that just jolted him forward. We just need to jump in even when it looks really stormy out because that is when the risk is high. The greater the risk, the more the faith. If we raise our faith then Christ can work through us to obtain those relationships that will help us later in life. |
